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My name Intan Shafina bt Abdul Halim.
I am a teacher,I have been teaching more than 15 years.
My marital status,married with 3 childrens.I currently pursuing a degree with UKM.Bachelor in Bahasa Melayu.
This is my first blog,it is part of my assigment so I appologise for any mistake in this blog.
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I’m Ismawaty Binti Md Sidik from‘Ijazah Sarjana Muda Pengajian Bahasa Melayu’ PBJJ in semester 5. My matric number is G76145. I’m 29 years old and married to Yusnijar Bin Mohd Yussuf. He works as a soldier in Kem Terendak, Melaka. I have two children who are Esma Yusdanial aged 4 years old and Isma Yusdayana aged 1 year and 4 months. I was born in Slim River Perak and now I live in Sungai Udang, Melaka. I work as a teacher in Sekolah Kebangsaan Kem Terendak Satu. The subject that I am teaching is Mathematic for Standard One. Since seven years of working I have gained many experiences which taught me about live and self-discovery. I have studying in UKM since two years ago and most probably, I will graduate on 2011. Insyaallah.

This blog is one of the requirements for my English course. First of all, I want to say thousand of Thank You to our lecturer Puan Norazah for her advice, motivation and encouragement to complete this blogging assignment. I hope other friends can drop a comment about my blog. If there are any negative comments from them, I will try to make an improvement to my blog.

Last but not least, I want to say Thank You to all people for their morale support, idea and cooperation to accomplish this project. For my lovely family, thank you for your sacrification and love. May the force be with you.

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Hello guys ...I'm Norlina bte Adli . I am 35 years old but it does not mean I have wrinkles on my face. I will still remain young because I am so happy with my life today. My life is surrounded with tons of laughter from my two lovely sons: the romantic slit eyes, Aiman who is 9 years old and witty but intelligent Aliff , 5 years old. My hubby is Mohd Yusni Hizaam. He is the most hardworking and responsible man that I have ever seen in my life. He is my soulmate !!!!

Now, I'm studying “Ijazah Sarjana Muda Pengajian Bahasa Melayu” PBJJ at UKM. My matric number is G76208. This is my ambition to further my knowledge since I believe that learning is a lifelong journey. This blogging assignment is one of requirement for the course SKPD 1033” ENGLISH FOR SCIENCE SOCIAL” . I am so excited since this is my first time I do blogging. Before this , I thought that blogging is difficult and too advance for a 35 years old woman like me. I could not see any advantages that we can gain from blogging. However, this course is kind of stepping stone for me to widen my perspective about blogging , Now, I already have my own blog where I could share latest gossip, knowledge and information with friends. A THOUSAND ROSES for the individuals who have helped me along this course especially my lecturer, Puan Norazah for her endless support and motivation along this course. A THOUSAND KISSES for my husband and kids who never stop supporting me from behind.

Hopefully, by the end of this semester, I could improve my creativity and knowledge especially when dealing with technological devices.

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My name is Idayu Alimat. I'am a married women with 3 kids. I'am a counselor in SK Kem Terendak 1, Malacca. This is my 4th school after finish my tranning in Maktab Perguruan Sultan Abdul Halim, Kedah.I'am very happy stay in Malacca because here is my home town. My husband is a army at Kuala Lipis Pahang. He is very nice man and caring. Now my friends and I study at UKM, Bangi since 2007. I would like to thanks to all my family and friends because of their support.

Divorce among Celebrities in Malaysia

Prepared by Intan Shafina bt Abd. Halim (G76142)

It is a norm for a husband and wife to have conflict. No matter how much they may have solved the seed of hope together never to part, yet along this journey they may face situation beyond their control. Lately, the rate of divorce has increased tremendously especially amongst Islamic couples. Through the 12 month in the year 2008, we were able to observe all kinds of trials and tribulations in the home arising from small matters to the highest tip of magazine and the media. What was thought to be only a minor scenario for a family is now no longer a scene in the sinetron and tele-novela. When there are artists who actually re-act the role in real life of a divorce case, it becomes a hot topic throughout the country. It is as though the world economy climate which is plunging is no more relevant to be discussed.

Most probably, many people believe that it is a coincidence to divorce. However it is proven in Malaysian actors’ life that at least 18 actors who are involved in marital problem divorce within the duration of 11 month after getting married legally. Surprisingly, in the period of divorce, many are getting separated every month. Based on the record, Azharina Azhar or Azharina who is a singer aged 23 was asking for a divorce from her husband who was Datuk Sukri aged 50, last February. This was the first case of divorce among the celebrities that happen in 2009.

Another case is Farah Asyikin Zulkifli or Farah Asyikin aged 28 and Dr. Fariz Yahya aged 30 ( 26 May ), and also actress, Nasrizal Ngasri or Bell aged 29 with Nur Farhana Muhamad Fauri aged 26 ( 24 November ) . Nuraniza Idris aged 40 is also divorced from her hubby for the second time.

Regarding the controversies which involved Bell, the film actress, Antoo Fighter sent an SMS with the divorce message to his wife and admitted that he is only under going a counseling session to the reporters. But at last in reality, it was publicized when the SMS case was brought up in the court and the divorce was legally accepted.

Beside divorce, several actors and actresses were involved in marital commotion with the actors’ lifestyle. One example is Mohamed Nurhakim Zaidon or Norman Hakim aged 32 and Arbaeyah Abdul Manan or Abby Abadi aged 30. This was a hot issue especially when Norman was caught red-handed with a new actress named Suhaiza Suhaimi or Memey aged 20. Abby requested to be divorced from her hubby but until today there is no news from them.

Dayang Zaira Erema Awang Moshdad, a singer aged 25, also known as Erema whose divorce with Jamaludin Sulik (Sri Bayu) aged 43 was also brought up because the divorce application was done when the writer was suffering from neuron illness and was bed-ridden. The divorce case of Erema will be heard in Syariah Court Petaling Jaya, Selangor, on this first December.

Those also involved in the marital problems during the 11 months are actors (Mohamed Aszerul Nizam Abdullah aged 28) or Beego and his wife Intan Shahira Mohd Shahru, aged 27 whose divorce case is still under inspection. Besides that, Jamaludin Elias or Nash aged 48 who is a singer and Sosilawati Lawiya aged 44 have already divorce legally but they are still staying separately although the court has ordered and certified them as husband and wife legally.

The director cum singer, Aziz M Osman aged 46 had doubts on his marital status with an Ustazah named Nor Radhiah Ramli aged 22 until the extent of seeking solution in the court. Their divorce case is still under observation. Lately, a singer cum actor, Mohd Radhi Razali aged 31 or Radhi OAG was also involved in marriage problem with his wife/spouse, Shazlin Sharif, 30 who has appealed for their divorce (fasakh). However, Radhi did not appear on the court for the tree times on the last twenty fifth November.

It is really a worrying phenomenon for the PGSM (Peguam Syarie Malaysia Sosiety). The Persatuan Seniman Malaysia ( Seniman ) and Persatuan Penyanyi Pemuzik and Penulis lagu Tanah Air ( Papita ) wanted to get involved in helping and considered offering a special course regarding the importance of marriage institution and a peaceful and contented marriage life for the couples involved. The president of PGSM, Zainal Rijal Abu Bakar, said “When the marriage problem occur which involves actors or actresses, serious action has to be taken because they are the possession of the society”.

The actors should realize that they have fans that are always after their programs in life. Therefore, they have to be more careful and rational in their actions taken. “In making all the decision, whether they like it or not, they have to think carefully and share the happiness with their fans and society”, said the president of PGSM. He also said, “He is afraid that the divorce case among the actors is becoming very common. We don’t want this to be taken lightly because actors are the role-model of the society and they have to show a good example to their fans and society who are also looking forward to see them”.

President of Seniman, Datuk Mustafa Maarof emphasized that those actors and actress who are getting married should undergo a special course or briefing on the importance of marriage life.

Effect of the Divorce among Celebrities in Malaysia.

Prepared by Idayu bt Alimat (G76141)

In Malaysia, artists are public figure. Divorce issues among them are something which cannot be hidden from public. Divorce brings shame and stigma squarely upon women only in conservative societies. However, think again because according to a “news” report published in the Malaysian tabloid, celebrity divorcees are apparently the hottest thing in the market at the moment. People usually read the news in local tabloids with a pinch of salt. We can take that issue when the seriousness of divorce and disrespect for divorced women are glossed over for sake of entertainment gossip. Being a celebrity in the entertainment world attracts a lot of attention but being a divorcee it seems, adds more “aura” and “glamour”.

Celebrities share their lives and experiences with the world. Their experiences are not just of clubbing and going to film premiers' nature (unless you're Paris Hilton). Celebrities are also real people who lead real lives and experience real things such as marriage, divorce, death of loved ones and serious illnesses to name a few. Celebrities are also role models to young people. Positive messages work better when they are said by someone in the public eye. For example, the police and media often get a celebrity to record a message when they are hunting for a missing child or trying to solve a crime.

Each divorce is unique and it will have negative effects to the children if the couples have kids, to both family, and also to the career. Every magazines or newspaper contains story about celebrities’ personal life because they are public figure and people around them want to know more about their personal life. Some of the fans were frustrated when they know that their idols are facing problems in their marriage. The fans will talk about these issues either positively or negatively.

Every step taken in a celebrity’s personal or professional life gets noticed by media and within a very short time the entire nation gets every detail with some added spice. In fact, people treat a celebrity in a very special manner and support him or her in every up and downs of their life. However, orientation of media has changed and now the media believe in publishing something spicy every day.

The most important thing the public can relate to is the idol’s career with their divorce issues. The idol does not have any private life any more. Every place she or he goes people keep asking about her or his problems and these will make them cannot concentrate on their work. The celebrities also have fewer offers to make a film or show. Sometime the company or television station will stop the contract. If that happens, the celebrities will have financial problems.

The idols family will get the side effects from this problem as well. They will be asked endlessly by the public and the reporters about the truth story that bringing to that divorce. For the reporter they will receive more stories for themselves and their company. Through the internet, these stories can be downloaded using blog or ‘you tube’. These issues are openly discussed even though the issues are very sensitive for their family and this will make their life more complicated. Whenever the Malay Mail tabloid, which has a readership among all races, has an exclusive sensational story on a celebrity, sales rise by 5,000 to 6,000 to about 50,000 copies. The issue will bring advantage to mass media.

This happened to a lead actor Aszerul Nizam Abdullah and Intan Shahira, when they shockingly claimed that the couple spent only 10 days together in four month of marriage. Their family feels very embarrassed of the both of them. This also happened to Aziz M Osman, 46, the famous director and actor. He said that he has been cheated to marry an ‘ustazah’ from Terengganu. Aziz M Osman has left his wife, Nor Radhiah Ramli, 22, as soon as they arrived back from their honeymoon in Bali, Indonesia. According to Aziz M Osman’s mother, Afida Es, the marriage was illegal, and the Islamic office has canceled the marriage. Aziz’s mother also feels very embarrassed because of this situation.

If the idol has children, the children will also soon face problems because the reporters, friends, teachers and people around them will ask them about their parent’s divorce. For teenagers, they can differentiate the good and bad things for them to talk about. For the kids, they do not understand what has happened to their parents and why people keep asking about their parent’s private life. Children give joy and completeness to a family when the family is complete. Differently, they can be a further catalyst for the dissolution of the marriage between their parents. In any case, children and teens are negatively involved in the crisis between their parents, with all the psychological problems related, enhanced by the pressure of mass-media and by the huge sum of money that their parents make. Sincerely, there is more sympathy for the children than for their parents, when the latter divorce.

The consequences of divorce impact almost all aspects of a child’s life, including the parent-child relationship, emotions and behavior, psychological development, and coping skills. They will have a fear because the reporters always try to meet them to get more information and sometimes the idols try to hide the children from the reporter.

How to Avoid Divorce Among Celebrities in Malaysia

Prepared by Ismawaty bt Md Sidik (G76145)

Divorce is the way out from the problem that cannot be resolved although many efforts that have been made. Divorce is one of the solutions that is legal but is hated by Allah s.w.t. We had been asked to get the best solution before making the final decision that is divorce. For example, take a look at the scenario of artists today; most of them get married after having a long love relationship. However, we see many of them end in divorce even though they have known each other for years. There are many reasons why this problem happens.

Miscommunication is one of the reasons why people who marry because of love but finally get divorced. This problem becomes worse when the husband and wife did not have enough knowledge about a marriage. A counselor at National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN), Suriani Buang, said that marriage between artists become challenging when they do not know how to settle the problem. It will become worse if the problem is not solved as soon as possible. In addition, she said that communication between man and women is important because it will influence the marriage whether it will give happiness and peace. If we compare man and women, a man is rational while a woman is emotional. Understanding the attitude and feelings of one another is one way to become happy besides tolerance in making the decision. Besides, before getting married they should know each other to make sure that they feel comfortable with each other after getting married.

Like anything else, communication is a two way interaction. One person cannot do all the talking while the other one do all the listening. Talking is a skill that most of us are born with, but very few of us have really mastered, or even tried to master the fine art of listening. You need to listen to what your partner is saying, and value that input since that is what they are thinking, that is what they are at right now. They are probably giving us clues, like a road map, in terms of how to get back on the on the same track.
First, determine what has caused the couple to stop communicating effectively. In today’s world, the answer to that is often the fact that both of them are working full time. At the end of the day, they have very little energy left to devote to their relationship. Such a situation is not good and will inevitably without fail be detrimental to their relationship. One should make an effort to communicate with his or her spouse after a long hard day at work. It may actually help them to unwind, instead of rerunning the day’s hassles in they mind, to put those things out of they mind and concentrate on something else, like their spouse, what they did today, and what was important in their day. Showing interest in one another is always a step closer towards effective communication and bonds the husband and wife.
For some couples, however, this is not enough. They have drifted too far apart for too long of a time to be able to effectively reestablish communication between them. There are more alternatives that can be taken before a divorce should be considered. All aspects have to be very seriously considered prior to deciding to end the marriage, because in a surprising number of cases, divorce was only one of many viable options.
Marriage counseling can be a very effective instrument in putting a marriage that seems to be going down the divorce path back onto the right track. Counseling helps couples among celebrities to identify the root of their marital problems and solve them with a little help from a professional counselor trained in mediation. Finding an effective marriage counselor, however, requires a bit of work on they part. Many counselors’ will offer a free consultation. Ask for recommendations from friends, but in part they should call 10 or more counselors, ask for their price packages ahead of time and then schedule consultations with the 3 or 4 that meet their budget.
There are also many self-help tools available in the market today. There are some excellent books and articles on how to make marriages work, how to re-ignite the spark in a relationship and how a few simple steps can bring back the love in a relationship that had turned hateful. Both partners can get a lot of inspiration, advice and ideas on how to make relationships work from such books and articles. You can even find help when you think there is infidelity in your marriage. There are books and articles out there, which tell you why people cheat or stray and what they can do about it.
Sexual problem is also one of the factors that lead to the lack of understanding between husband and wife. The counselor at National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN), Suriani Buang said that sexual relation between husband and wife is one thing that should be given attention seriously. They must not feel ashamed to discuss about this matter.
“In these matter (sexual relation between husband and wife), partners should not be shame or fear to admit the weakness or problem that they faced because if they remain silent without discussion it will become worse and can cause divorce.
“Partners don’t need to be worried about the problem because all problems can be settled through discussion among them or they can go for consultation with the expert to settle the problem”. She said.
Husband and wife should have a clear objective for a successful marriage. If the marriage is only based on desire of sex without any objective, the marriage will not succeed. Therefore, all couple must understand the responsibility and commitment involved before getting married.
There are many resorts that have specially created an ambience which is conducive to romance. These vacation packages are easy to find and only requires you to be on the look out. The point of these resorts is to reinvigorate a relationship by introducing some of the passion and spontaneity that over time can be watered down by obligations and daily responsibilities. These events attempt to eliminate outside stresses so that you can focus on your spouse, and in so doing rekindle the love you feel for one another.
All in all, if you are willing to put in your best efforts to stop your marriage from slipping away, there is now help at hand and you need not have to fight alone. By utilizing the tools of counselors, self help and resorts you can go a long way to giving your marriage the best chance for survival. But beyond survival, these tools can help ensure you a happy lifelong relationship.
The reason divorce among artist become worse is because of the involvement of the people who gain profit from selling the sensational story of the artist and celebrity. In TV program like “Melodi” at TV3, we feel hate in the segment ‘terjah’ where the reporter show the intensity in disclosing the secret and privacy of artists and celebrities. They are seemed like the ‘paparazzi’ in Hollywood and they are one of reason why the problem becomes worse. The influence from media is a factor that marriage becomes worse although the problem can be solved with a right way. [http://syukran.wordpress.com/2008/11/11/media-massa-punca-kes-perceraian-artis-malaysia-meningkatdan-ini-memalukan-islam/]. The writer in this web gives an opinion regarding the reporter that love to talk about the marriage of artist. Divorces among artist are the hottest story that the reporter like to disclose. There are also artists who share about their marriage to the public that to gain the popularity and glamour. Therefore, strategic alliance or smart partnership between media and artist is a reason the divorce is a sensational issue that closes the thinking part of Muslim.
Marriage counselor from Access Counseling Services, Meriam Omar Din, agrees that the failure in marriage is because of the modern living without applying traditional values. She said, the principal of marriage is one of pure relation that must be defended, in any circumstances, but divorce has been chosen as the way out for the conflict. She said that compared to the past few years, couples nowadays feel that their marriage is not valuable to be maintained.
Every marriage hits a rough spot occasionally. While not every marriage should be attempted to be salvaged, a great many more that are saved today should and can be through concerted efforts. So, the first step in avoiding divorce is recognizing that the fact that you have come to this point in your relationship is not unusual, but it does indicate that something must be changes if it is to survive. But before you go through a mental litany of everything that needs to change as justification for giving up, realize that there is help out there and if you are willing to put in the time and commitment, you can make your marriage work even when it seems that you and your partner have reached the end of the road.