Prepared by Intan Shafina bt Abd. Halim (G76142)
It is a norm for a husband and wife to have conflict. No matter how much they may have solved the seed of hope together never to part, yet along this journey they may face situation beyond their control. Lately, the rate of divorce has increased tremendously especially amongst Islamic couples. Through the 12 month in the year 2008, we were able to observe all kinds of trials and tribulations in the home arising from small matters to the highest tip of magazine and the media. What was thought to be only a minor scenario for a family is now no longer a scene in the sinetron and tele-novela. When there are artists who actually re-act the role in real life of a divorce case, it becomes a hot topic throughout the country. It is as though the world economy climate which is plunging is no more relevant to be discussed.
Most probably, many people believe that it is a coincidence to divorce. However it is proven in Malaysian actors’ life that at least 18 actors who are involved in marital problem divorce within the duration of 11 month after getting married legally. Surprisingly, in the period of divorce, many are getting separated every month. Based on the record, Azharina Azhar or Azharina who is a singer aged 23 was asking for a divorce from her husband who was Datuk Sukri aged 50, last February. This was the first case of divorce among the celebrities that happen in 2009.
Another case is Farah Asyikin Zulkifli or Farah Asyikin aged 28 and Dr. Fariz Yahya aged 30 ( 26 May ), and also actress, Nasrizal Ngasri or Bell aged 29 with Nur Farhana Muhamad Fauri aged 26 ( 24 November ) . Nuraniza Idris aged 40 is also divorced from her hubby for the second time.
Regarding the controversies which involved Bell, the film actress, Antoo Fighter sent an SMS with the divorce message to his wife and admitted that he is only under going a counseling session to the reporters. But at last in reality, it was publicized when the SMS case was brought up in the court and the divorce was legally accepted.
Beside divorce, several actors and actresses were involved in marital commotion with the actors’ lifestyle. One example is Mohamed Nurhakim Zaidon or Norman Hakim aged 32 and Arbaeyah Abdul Manan or Abby Abadi aged 30. This was a hot issue especially when Norman was caught red-handed with a new actress named Suhaiza Suhaimi or Memey aged 20. Abby requested to be divorced from her hubby but until today there is no news from them.
Dayang Zaira Erema Awang Moshdad, a singer aged 25, also known as Erema whose divorce with Jamaludin Sulik (Sri Bayu) aged 43 was also brought up because the divorce application was done when the writer was suffering from neuron illness and was bed-ridden. The divorce case of Erema will be heard in Syariah Court Petaling Jaya, Selangor, on this first December.
Those also involved in the marital problems during the 11 months are actors (Mohamed Aszerul Nizam Abdullah aged 28) or Beego and his wife Intan Shahira Mohd Shahru, aged 27 whose divorce case is still under inspection. Besides that, Jamaludin Elias or Nash aged 48 who is a singer and Sosilawati Lawiya aged 44 have already divorce legally but they are still staying separately although the court has ordered and certified them as husband and wife legally.
The director cum singer, Aziz M Osman aged 46 had doubts on his marital status with an Ustazah named Nor Radhiah Ramli aged 22 until the extent of seeking solution in the court. Their divorce case is still under observation. Lately, a singer cum actor, Mohd Radhi Razali aged 31 or Radhi OAG was also involved in marriage problem with his wife/spouse, Shazlin Sharif, 30 who has appealed for their divorce (fasakh). However, Radhi did not appear on the court for the tree times on the last twenty fifth November.
It is really a worrying phenomenon for the PGSM (Peguam Syarie Malaysia Sosiety). The Persatuan Seniman Malaysia ( Seniman ) and Persatuan Penyanyi Pemuzik and Penulis lagu Tanah Air ( Papita ) wanted to get involved in helping and considered offering a special course regarding the importance of marriage institution and a peaceful and contented marriage life for the couples involved. The president of PGSM, Zainal Rijal Abu Bakar, said “When the marriage problem occur which involves actors or actresses, serious action has to be taken because they are the possession of the society”.
The actors should realize that they have fans that are always after their programs in life. Therefore, they have to be more careful and rational in their actions taken. “In making all the decision, whether they like it or not, they have to think carefully and share the happiness with their fans and society”, said the president of PGSM. He also said, “He is afraid that the divorce case among the actors is becoming very common. We don’t want this to be taken lightly because actors are the role-model of the society and they have to show a good example to their fans and society who are also looking forward to see them”.
President of Seniman, Datuk Mustafa Maarof emphasized that those actors and actress who are getting married should undergo a special course or briefing on the importance of marriage life.
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Effect of the Divorce among Celebrities in Malaysia.
Prepared by Idayu bt Alimat (G76141)
In Malaysia, artists are public figure. Divorce issues among them are something which cannot be hidden from public. Divorce brings shame and stigma squarely upon women only in conservative societies. However, think again because according to a “news” report published in the Malaysian tabloid, celebrity divorcees are apparently the hottest thing in the market at the moment. People usually read the news in local tabloids with a pinch of salt. We can take that issue when the seriousness of divorce and disrespect for divorced women are glossed over for sake of entertainment gossip. Being a celebrity in the entertainment world attracts a lot of attention but being a divorcee it seems, adds more “aura” and “glamour”.
Celebrities share their lives and experiences with the world. Their experiences are not just of clubbing and going to film premiers' nature (unless you're Paris Hilton). Celebrities are also real people who lead real lives and experience real things such as marriage, divorce, death of loved ones and serious illnesses to name a few. Celebrities are also role models to young people. Positive messages work better when they are said by someone in the public eye. For example, the police and media often get a celebrity to record a message when they are hunting for a missing child or trying to solve a crime.
Each divorce is unique and it will have negative effects to the children if the couples have kids, to both family, and also to the career. Every magazines or newspaper contains story about celebrities’ personal life because they are public figure and people around them want to know more about their personal life. Some of the fans were frustrated when they know that their idols are facing problems in their marriage. The fans will talk about these issues either positively or negatively.
Every step taken in a celebrity’s personal or professional life gets noticed by media and within a very short time the entire nation gets every detail with some added spice. In fact, people treat a celebrity in a very special manner and support him or her in every up and downs of their life. However, orientation of media has changed and now the media believe in publishing something spicy every day.
The most important thing the public can relate to is the idol’s career with their divorce issues. The idol does not have any private life any more. Every place she or he goes people keep asking about her or his problems and these will make them cannot concentrate on their work. The celebrities also have fewer offers to make a film or show. Sometime the company or television station will stop the contract. If that happens, the celebrities will have financial problems.
The idols family will get the side effects from this problem as well. They will be asked endlessly by the public and the reporters about the truth story that bringing to that divorce. For the reporter they will receive more stories for themselves and their company. Through the internet, these stories can be downloaded using blog or ‘you tube’. These issues are openly discussed even though the issues are very sensitive for their family and this will make their life more complicated. Whenever the Malay Mail tabloid, which has a readership among all races, has an exclusive sensational story on a celebrity, sales rise by 5,000 to 6,000 to about 50,000 copies. The issue will bring advantage to mass media.
This happened to a lead actor Aszerul Nizam Abdullah and Intan Shahira, when they shockingly claimed that the couple spent only 10 days together in four month of marriage. Their family feels very embarrassed of the both of them. This also happened to Aziz M Osman, 46, the famous director and actor. He said that he has been cheated to marry an ‘ustazah’ from Terengganu. Aziz M Osman has left his wife, Nor Radhiah Ramli, 22, as soon as they arrived back from their honeymoon in Bali, Indonesia. According to Aziz M Osman’s mother, Afida Es, the marriage was illegal, and the Islamic office has canceled the marriage. Aziz’s mother also feels very embarrassed because of this situation.
If the idol has children, the children will also soon face problems because the reporters, friends, teachers and people around them will ask them about their parent’s divorce. For teenagers, they can differentiate the good and bad things for them to talk about. For the kids, they do not understand what has happened to their parents and why people keep asking about their parent’s private life. Children give joy and completeness to a family when the family is complete. Differently, they can be a further catalyst for the dissolution of the marriage between their parents. In any case, children and teens are negatively involved in the crisis between their parents, with all the psychological problems related, enhanced by the pressure of mass-media and by the huge sum of money that their parents make. Sincerely, there is more sympathy for the children than for their parents, when the latter divorce.
The consequences of divorce impact almost all aspects of a child’s life, including the parent-child relationship, emotions and behavior, psychological development, and coping skills. They will have a fear because the reporters always try to meet them to get more information and sometimes the idols try to hide the children from the reporter.
In Malaysia, artists are public figure. Divorce issues among them are something which cannot be hidden from public. Divorce brings shame and stigma squarely upon women only in conservative societies. However, think again because according to a “news” report published in the Malaysian tabloid, celebrity divorcees are apparently the hottest thing in the market at the moment. People usually read the news in local tabloids with a pinch of salt. We can take that issue when the seriousness of divorce and disrespect for divorced women are glossed over for sake of entertainment gossip. Being a celebrity in the entertainment world attracts a lot of attention but being a divorcee it seems, adds more “aura” and “glamour”.
Celebrities share their lives and experiences with the world. Their experiences are not just of clubbing and going to film premiers' nature (unless you're Paris Hilton). Celebrities are also real people who lead real lives and experience real things such as marriage, divorce, death of loved ones and serious illnesses to name a few. Celebrities are also role models to young people. Positive messages work better when they are said by someone in the public eye. For example, the police and media often get a celebrity to record a message when they are hunting for a missing child or trying to solve a crime.
Each divorce is unique and it will have negative effects to the children if the couples have kids, to both family, and also to the career. Every magazines or newspaper contains story about celebrities’ personal life because they are public figure and people around them want to know more about their personal life. Some of the fans were frustrated when they know that their idols are facing problems in their marriage. The fans will talk about these issues either positively or negatively.
Every step taken in a celebrity’s personal or professional life gets noticed by media and within a very short time the entire nation gets every detail with some added spice. In fact, people treat a celebrity in a very special manner and support him or her in every up and downs of their life. However, orientation of media has changed and now the media believe in publishing something spicy every day.
The most important thing the public can relate to is the idol’s career with their divorce issues. The idol does not have any private life any more. Every place she or he goes people keep asking about her or his problems and these will make them cannot concentrate on their work. The celebrities also have fewer offers to make a film or show. Sometime the company or television station will stop the contract. If that happens, the celebrities will have financial problems.
The idols family will get the side effects from this problem as well. They will be asked endlessly by the public and the reporters about the truth story that bringing to that divorce. For the reporter they will receive more stories for themselves and their company. Through the internet, these stories can be downloaded using blog or ‘you tube’. These issues are openly discussed even though the issues are very sensitive for their family and this will make their life more complicated. Whenever the Malay Mail tabloid, which has a readership among all races, has an exclusive sensational story on a celebrity, sales rise by 5,000 to 6,000 to about 50,000 copies. The issue will bring advantage to mass media.
This happened to a lead actor Aszerul Nizam Abdullah and Intan Shahira, when they shockingly claimed that the couple spent only 10 days together in four month of marriage. Their family feels very embarrassed of the both of them. This also happened to Aziz M Osman, 46, the famous director and actor. He said that he has been cheated to marry an ‘ustazah’ from Terengganu. Aziz M Osman has left his wife, Nor Radhiah Ramli, 22, as soon as they arrived back from their honeymoon in Bali, Indonesia. According to Aziz M Osman’s mother, Afida Es, the marriage was illegal, and the Islamic office has canceled the marriage. Aziz’s mother also feels very embarrassed because of this situation.
If the idol has children, the children will also soon face problems because the reporters, friends, teachers and people around them will ask them about their parent’s divorce. For teenagers, they can differentiate the good and bad things for them to talk about. For the kids, they do not understand what has happened to their parents and why people keep asking about their parent’s private life. Children give joy and completeness to a family when the family is complete. Differently, they can be a further catalyst for the dissolution of the marriage between their parents. In any case, children and teens are negatively involved in the crisis between their parents, with all the psychological problems related, enhanced by the pressure of mass-media and by the huge sum of money that their parents make. Sincerely, there is more sympathy for the children than for their parents, when the latter divorce.
The consequences of divorce impact almost all aspects of a child’s life, including the parent-child relationship, emotions and behavior, psychological development, and coping skills. They will have a fear because the reporters always try to meet them to get more information and sometimes the idols try to hide the children from the reporter.
How to Avoid Divorce Among Celebrities in Malaysia
Prepared by Ismawaty bt Md Sidik (G76145)
Divorce is the way out from the problem that cannot be resolved although many efforts that have been made. Divorce is one of the solutions that is legal but is hated by Allah s.w.t. We had been asked to get the best solution before making the final decision that is divorce. For example, take a look at the scenario of artists today; most of them get married after having a long love relationship. However, we see many of them end in divorce even though they have known each other for years. There are many reasons why this problem happens.
Miscommunication is one of the reasons why people who marry because of love but finally get divorced. This problem becomes worse when the husband and wife did not have enough knowledge about a marriage. A counselor at National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN), Suriani Buang, said that marriage between artists become challenging when they do not know how to settle the problem. It will become worse if the problem is not solved as soon as possible. In addition, she said that communication between man and women is important because it will influence the marriage whether it will give happiness and peace. If we compare man and women, a man is rational while a woman is emotional. Understanding the attitude and feelings of one another is one way to become happy besides tolerance in making the decision. Besides, before getting married they should know each other to make sure that they feel comfortable with each other after getting married.
Like anything else, communication is a two way interaction. One person cannot do all the talking while the other one do all the listening. Talking is a skill that most of us are born with, but very few of us have really mastered, or even tried to master the fine art of listening. You need to listen to what your partner is saying, and value that input since that is what they are thinking, that is what they are at right now. They are probably giving us clues, like a road map, in terms of how to get back on the on the same track.
First, determine what has caused the couple to stop communicating effectively. In today’s world, the answer to that is often the fact that both of them are working full time. At the end of the day, they have very little energy left to devote to their relationship. Such a situation is not good and will inevitably without fail be detrimental to their relationship. One should make an effort to communicate with his or her spouse after a long hard day at work. It may actually help them to unwind, instead of rerunning the day’s hassles in they mind, to put those things out of they mind and concentrate on something else, like their spouse, what they did today, and what was important in their day. Showing interest in one another is always a step closer towards effective communication and bonds the husband and wife.
For some couples, however, this is not enough. They have drifted too far apart for too long of a time to be able to effectively reestablish communication between them. There are more alternatives that can be taken before a divorce should be considered. All aspects have to be very seriously considered prior to deciding to end the marriage, because in a surprising number of cases, divorce was only one of many viable options.
Marriage counseling can be a very effective instrument in putting a marriage that seems to be going down the divorce path back onto the right track. Counseling helps couples among celebrities to identify the root of their marital problems and solve them with a little help from a professional counselor trained in mediation. Finding an effective marriage counselor, however, requires a bit of work on they part. Many counselors’ will offer a free consultation. Ask for recommendations from friends, but in part they should call 10 or more counselors, ask for their price packages ahead of time and then schedule consultations with the 3 or 4 that meet their budget.
There are also many self-help tools available in the market today. There are some excellent books and articles on how to make marriages work, how to re-ignite the spark in a relationship and how a few simple steps can bring back the love in a relationship that had turned hateful. Both partners can get a lot of inspiration, advice and ideas on how to make relationships work from such books and articles. You can even find help when you think there is infidelity in your marriage. There are books and articles out there, which tell you why people cheat or stray and what they can do about it.
Sexual problem is also one of the factors that lead to the lack of understanding between husband and wife. The counselor at National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN), Suriani Buang said that sexual relation between husband and wife is one thing that should be given attention seriously. They must not feel ashamed to discuss about this matter.
“In these matter (sexual relation between husband and wife), partners should not be shame or fear to admit the weakness or problem that they faced because if they remain silent without discussion it will become worse and can cause divorce.
“Partners don’t need to be worried about the problem because all problems can be settled through discussion among them or they can go for consultation with the expert to settle the problem”. She said.
Husband and wife should have a clear objective for a successful marriage. If the marriage is only based on desire of sex without any objective, the marriage will not succeed. Therefore, all couple must understand the responsibility and commitment involved before getting married.
There are many resorts that have specially created an ambience which is conducive to romance. These vacation packages are easy to find and only requires you to be on the look out. The point of these resorts is to reinvigorate a relationship by introducing some of the passion and spontaneity that over time can be watered down by obligations and daily responsibilities. These events attempt to eliminate outside stresses so that you can focus on your spouse, and in so doing rekindle the love you feel for one another.
All in all, if you are willing to put in your best efforts to stop your marriage from slipping away, there is now help at hand and you need not have to fight alone. By utilizing the tools of counselors, self help and resorts you can go a long way to giving your marriage the best chance for survival. But beyond survival, these tools can help ensure you a happy lifelong relationship.
The reason divorce among artist become worse is because of the involvement of the people who gain profit from selling the sensational story of the artist and celebrity. In TV program like “Melodi” at TV3, we feel hate in the segment ‘terjah’ where the reporter show the intensity in disclosing the secret and privacy of artists and celebrities. They are seemed like the ‘paparazzi’ in Hollywood and they are one of reason why the problem becomes worse. The influence from media is a factor that marriage becomes worse although the problem can be solved with a right way. [http://syukran.wordpress.com/2008/11/11/media-massa-punca-kes-perceraian-artis-malaysia-meningkatdan-ini-memalukan-islam/]. The writer in this web gives an opinion regarding the reporter that love to talk about the marriage of artist. Divorces among artist are the hottest story that the reporter like to disclose. There are also artists who share about their marriage to the public that to gain the popularity and glamour. Therefore, strategic alliance or smart partnership between media and artist is a reason the divorce is a sensational issue that closes the thinking part of Muslim.
Marriage counselor from Access Counseling Services, Meriam Omar Din, agrees that the failure in marriage is because of the modern living without applying traditional values. She said, the principal of marriage is one of pure relation that must be defended, in any circumstances, but divorce has been chosen as the way out for the conflict. She said that compared to the past few years, couples nowadays feel that their marriage is not valuable to be maintained.
Every marriage hits a rough spot occasionally. While not every marriage should be attempted to be salvaged, a great many more that are saved today should and can be through concerted efforts. So, the first step in avoiding divorce is recognizing that the fact that you have come to this point in your relationship is not unusual, but it does indicate that something must be changes if it is to survive. But before you go through a mental litany of everything that needs to change as justification for giving up, realize that there is help out there and if you are willing to put in the time and commitment, you can make your marriage work even when it seems that you and your partner have reached the end of the road.
Divorce is the way out from the problem that cannot be resolved although many efforts that have been made. Divorce is one of the solutions that is legal but is hated by Allah s.w.t. We had been asked to get the best solution before making the final decision that is divorce. For example, take a look at the scenario of artists today; most of them get married after having a long love relationship. However, we see many of them end in divorce even though they have known each other for years. There are many reasons why this problem happens.
Miscommunication is one of the reasons why people who marry because of love but finally get divorced. This problem becomes worse when the husband and wife did not have enough knowledge about a marriage. A counselor at National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN), Suriani Buang, said that marriage between artists become challenging when they do not know how to settle the problem. It will become worse if the problem is not solved as soon as possible. In addition, she said that communication between man and women is important because it will influence the marriage whether it will give happiness and peace. If we compare man and women, a man is rational while a woman is emotional. Understanding the attitude and feelings of one another is one way to become happy besides tolerance in making the decision. Besides, before getting married they should know each other to make sure that they feel comfortable with each other after getting married.
Like anything else, communication is a two way interaction. One person cannot do all the talking while the other one do all the listening. Talking is a skill that most of us are born with, but very few of us have really mastered, or even tried to master the fine art of listening. You need to listen to what your partner is saying, and value that input since that is what they are thinking, that is what they are at right now. They are probably giving us clues, like a road map, in terms of how to get back on the on the same track.
First, determine what has caused the couple to stop communicating effectively. In today’s world, the answer to that is often the fact that both of them are working full time. At the end of the day, they have very little energy left to devote to their relationship. Such a situation is not good and will inevitably without fail be detrimental to their relationship. One should make an effort to communicate with his or her spouse after a long hard day at work. It may actually help them to unwind, instead of rerunning the day’s hassles in they mind, to put those things out of they mind and concentrate on something else, like their spouse, what they did today, and what was important in their day. Showing interest in one another is always a step closer towards effective communication and bonds the husband and wife.
For some couples, however, this is not enough. They have drifted too far apart for too long of a time to be able to effectively reestablish communication between them. There are more alternatives that can be taken before a divorce should be considered. All aspects have to be very seriously considered prior to deciding to end the marriage, because in a surprising number of cases, divorce was only one of many viable options.
Marriage counseling can be a very effective instrument in putting a marriage that seems to be going down the divorce path back onto the right track. Counseling helps couples among celebrities to identify the root of their marital problems and solve them with a little help from a professional counselor trained in mediation. Finding an effective marriage counselor, however, requires a bit of work on they part. Many counselors’ will offer a free consultation. Ask for recommendations from friends, but in part they should call 10 or more counselors, ask for their price packages ahead of time and then schedule consultations with the 3 or 4 that meet their budget.
There are also many self-help tools available in the market today. There are some excellent books and articles on how to make marriages work, how to re-ignite the spark in a relationship and how a few simple steps can bring back the love in a relationship that had turned hateful. Both partners can get a lot of inspiration, advice and ideas on how to make relationships work from such books and articles. You can even find help when you think there is infidelity in your marriage. There are books and articles out there, which tell you why people cheat or stray and what they can do about it.
Sexual problem is also one of the factors that lead to the lack of understanding between husband and wife. The counselor at National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN), Suriani Buang said that sexual relation between husband and wife is one thing that should be given attention seriously. They must not feel ashamed to discuss about this matter.
“In these matter (sexual relation between husband and wife), partners should not be shame or fear to admit the weakness or problem that they faced because if they remain silent without discussion it will become worse and can cause divorce.
“Partners don’t need to be worried about the problem because all problems can be settled through discussion among them or they can go for consultation with the expert to settle the problem”. She said.
Husband and wife should have a clear objective for a successful marriage. If the marriage is only based on desire of sex without any objective, the marriage will not succeed. Therefore, all couple must understand the responsibility and commitment involved before getting married.
There are many resorts that have specially created an ambience which is conducive to romance. These vacation packages are easy to find and only requires you to be on the look out. The point of these resorts is to reinvigorate a relationship by introducing some of the passion and spontaneity that over time can be watered down by obligations and daily responsibilities. These events attempt to eliminate outside stresses so that you can focus on your spouse, and in so doing rekindle the love you feel for one another.
All in all, if you are willing to put in your best efforts to stop your marriage from slipping away, there is now help at hand and you need not have to fight alone. By utilizing the tools of counselors, self help and resorts you can go a long way to giving your marriage the best chance for survival. But beyond survival, these tools can help ensure you a happy lifelong relationship.
The reason divorce among artist become worse is because of the involvement of the people who gain profit from selling the sensational story of the artist and celebrity. In TV program like “Melodi” at TV3, we feel hate in the segment ‘terjah’ where the reporter show the intensity in disclosing the secret and privacy of artists and celebrities. They are seemed like the ‘paparazzi’ in Hollywood and they are one of reason why the problem becomes worse. The influence from media is a factor that marriage becomes worse although the problem can be solved with a right way. [http://syukran.wordpress.com/2008/11/11/media-massa-punca-kes-perceraian-artis-malaysia-meningkatdan-ini-memalukan-islam/]. The writer in this web gives an opinion regarding the reporter that love to talk about the marriage of artist. Divorces among artist are the hottest story that the reporter like to disclose. There are also artists who share about their marriage to the public that to gain the popularity and glamour. Therefore, strategic alliance or smart partnership between media and artist is a reason the divorce is a sensational issue that closes the thinking part of Muslim.
Marriage counselor from Access Counseling Services, Meriam Omar Din, agrees that the failure in marriage is because of the modern living without applying traditional values. She said, the principal of marriage is one of pure relation that must be defended, in any circumstances, but divorce has been chosen as the way out for the conflict. She said that compared to the past few years, couples nowadays feel that their marriage is not valuable to be maintained.
Every marriage hits a rough spot occasionally. While not every marriage should be attempted to be salvaged, a great many more that are saved today should and can be through concerted efforts. So, the first step in avoiding divorce is recognizing that the fact that you have come to this point in your relationship is not unusual, but it does indicate that something must be changes if it is to survive. But before you go through a mental litany of everything that needs to change as justification for giving up, realize that there is help out there and if you are willing to put in the time and commitment, you can make your marriage work even when it seems that you and your partner have reached the end of the road.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Factor-factor Divorce Among Celebrities in Malaysia
Prepared by Norlina bt Adli (G76208)
Divorce among Malaysian celebrities is becoming a current trend nowadays. We can simply say that every weekend there is news about celebrities who are asking for divorce, declaring their separation with their spouse or rumors saying that he or she now is having marital problem. This unhealthy trend is increasing because those celebrities can simply say that “they are still human; they are not different from their fans out there”. They do not realize their status as celebrities, artists and famous faces, and that their life is surrounded by fans who are never exhausted to know more than their new products of films or songs. News or headline like “ X- the famous actor announcing his divorce “ or “ Yes, we are not living together since 3 months ago- Artist B “ give an bad indicator to not only entertainment industry but to the religion institution and academic system. In fact it reflects how bad Malaysians are in managing their married lives.
There are few factors contributing to the wrecked marriage among Malaysian celebrities. First of all it is about infidelity and unfaithfulness. Lots of divorce cases occurred because of these factors. The existence of third person can trigger this problem. Third person may be anybody - fans, or some corporate people that they are dealing with, manager, recording company staff or just new artists who want to have some publicity to spur their name. It is very ironic to see that celebrities have elaborated wedding reception to celebrate their marriage, where all the ministers and VVIP in Malaysia were invited and the coverage of their wedding would be on the magazine for a month, but after one of two years of marriage, they end up in Syariah Court. It is juxtaposition with their Hollywood-like wedding ceremony, because their attitude towards a marriage is very pathetic. Their perception about marriage is always different with the ordinary people’s concept of marriage because they are celebrities themselves. This is why infidelity and unfaithfulness happen where they feel that the status as celebrities allow them to do whatever they wish to do. The status also can be immunity for them to go overboard without thinking about the consequences that might affect their marriage in the future. Last year, we were shocked to read about the divorce between two famous artists that we always taught as loving couple. The male celebrity was caught in proximity with a new artist in his new office- resulting in the collapse of a 9 year of marriage. It shows that Malaysian celebrities have misused their license as public figures by involving themselves in affairs and scandals which soon will degrade the role of celebrities in public’s eyes. Statements such as “that is our fate” and “that is not our choice to separate” is what they would always say outside the syariee court after their procedural of divorcee is done. The problem is caused by their actions, and by saying such statements, it shows the lack of mentality among our celebrity about the marriage institution. Endless scandal bit by bit will deteriorate people’s trust and interest to support their product of the entertainment industry as a whole.
The second factor is gossip. Gossip, celebrities and media are interrelated. Media and celebrities for instance depend on each other. The magazine needs to be sold, and hot and latest entertainment news would push fans to buy the magazines to read about their favorite celebrities. On the other hand, celebrities depend on media to market their product and tell the public about their new films or albums. However, our media industry has been flooded with lots of entertainment magazines which have the same purpose - gaining money from the glittering world of show business. Lots of approach and creativity are needed to compete with other publisher. However, it becomes an unhealthy competition when they start to write about personal details and private life of celebrities. It may be a good approach because readers love to know more about the celebrities’ life compared to their new products. However, sometimes what they write are stories without any strong supporting evidence. Celebrities become the victims but they must allow this to happen in order to avoid being boycotted by the press and media. To make thing even worse, some of the gossip are more towards provocation. We can blame the entertainment press for reporting such irrelevant news which will affect the readers. We cannot deny some of the gossip might be true but the media should not use it as a selling point to sell their magazines. They must be responsible with what they write and the public must be given accurate news and coverage about the celebrity. There are lots of divorces among Malaysian’s celebrities because of gossips. “Artist A (married) is said having a dinner with Artist C? (bachelor) is one example of gossip which can bring trouble to Artist A’s marriage. News without pictures, evidences or having question remarks should not be published because it can be a slander to ruin Artist A’s career and marriage. However, the fans will not perceive it as a gossip or a slander, they will believe the gossip and the gossip will spread across the country. Having pressure in their marriage, Artist A’s marriage with his spouse will be adversely affected and result in divorce. Here, we can see the impact of media in patterning the future of people in the entertainment industry in Malaysia. How terrible it is to see the wicked tactics used by some of the press and publisher just to get the readers for their magazine and to increase the sales.
Besides that, some Malaysian celebrities are easily drowned by popularity. Life as a public figure which camera flash is always on them, sometimes make them forget their commitment especially for those who are married. Exposure and endless offer to make films or stage shows will overshadow their own priority. As it is named as entertainment industry, it will absolutely entertain these celebrities with lots of money and products to endorse, and strong fans around them who will support their films or albums. Their life will be filled with photo shooting, an invitation to A-class list of businessman’s party or joining the tour of the products they endorse. For the celebrities who are still holding status as a bachelor, it will be alright. However, it becomes a problem to married celebrities who are at the peak of their career. Thus, they must be able to prioritize between their career and family in order to secure and maintain their success in both career and happiness in marriage. However, most Malaysian celebrities fail to do that because their popularity has blinded them from choosing the right decision for their own life. For them, popularity and fame only comes once, so they must grab all opportunity that they have in front of the eyes. Endless commitment to their career will kill their marriage because of their own failure to prioritize what is important in their life. Popularity is very subjective and every celebrity will taste the sweetness of popularity and the bitter part of it. But, for some of married celebrities in Malaysian, commitment to maintain their popularity is more important than holding the serenity of married life. There are many cases of celebrity’s divorce in Malaysia because of the tendency to maintain their popularity rather than thinking about their family. They think that having married life will hinder their movement as well-known celebrities. In fact, they think that their fans will prefer them to be an individual not as a husband or wife to somebody. That is why they choose to divorce as a sacrifice for their blossoming career. Unfortunately, after the divorce, the offer in the entertainment industry decreased, and the attention is turned to the younger artists who have lots of things to offer in one package. It is very common for some artists who think that their popularity is absolute but it ends just after they got divorced. In this industry, sometimes the best decision that we think is good sometimes does not work out.
There are current trends in Malaysia to see our celebrities getting married to older people and with the foreigners. It is not a big problem unless you know how to handle this situation. What will happen if the spouse that you think will follow your religion rules (cases of marrying a foreigner) is totally against with it? Marrying a foreigner may sound cool and show the good taste of Malaysian celebrities but they have to follow the social convention that our religion has set up for them. That is the issue especially for those marrying foreigner or ever experienced marrying French, English or Italian men who are known as less-committed in the world. Many of our celebrities fail to shape their spouse to follow the rules and regulations of our religion and resulting in divorce with lame excuses such as “ He could not follow my way” and “ It is very difficult to marry foreigner”. Besides that, marrying a rich older man is commonly seen in this industry. They can simply claim that money is not the reason why they choose that wrinkle man, but because of love. The public is not foolish, for a 20 year old girl who has just started singing and held small roles in television series and engaged to a 60 years old rich businessman, it might be a good thing to laugh about especially when you talk about love. From the two examples above, we can see how shallow the thinking of our celebrities is especially when it comes to marriage. Marriage for them is just tying the knot and having somebody to sleep with. They may say that they have chosen the right person and made the right decision, but their immaturity is shown after two years of marriage when they start to claim that they are not happy with that older man and the foreigner. Finally, they choose to separate to get rid of the relationship problem they face.
Last but not least is location love. This factor also contributes to the increasing divorce rate among Malaysian celebrities. For example, Brad Pitt dumped his wife, Jennifer Aniston while filming a movie together with sexy Angelina Jolie, maybe our celebrities can learn a lesson from this. Spending 24 hours together in the filming location sometimes can spur affection between actor and actress. In fact, the role of scripted romantic scenes can sometimes continue out of the filming location. In fact, the director’s instruction to build chemistry between the casts sometimes has been misused by them to build not only the chemistry but affection and desire. Married casts who are involved in location love may experience excitement and seduction with their acting partners and this overtake their responsibility as a father or mother at home. The producer might want to use this relationship as a weapon to promote his movie which bringing more chaos to the current circumstances. As the result, it wrecks the cast’s family and ends with divorce. If the casts themselves sets their mind to help their family before going to the location, love at work will not happen. Therefore, they must know their responsibility and boundaries that they must oblige with their acting partner.
In the nutshell, divorce among Malaysian celebrities can be avoided if they know their job and responsibility well. It might be a domestic problem, but as one who holds the status as public figure they must know the social conventions and rules that they must obey. Being a celebrity does not permit them to do whatever they want because as a role model, their movements and actions will be followed by their fans. Knowing their role in the family as a father, mother, husband, wife and public figure well will prevent them marriage problem.
Divorce among Malaysian celebrities is becoming a current trend nowadays. We can simply say that every weekend there is news about celebrities who are asking for divorce, declaring their separation with their spouse or rumors saying that he or she now is having marital problem. This unhealthy trend is increasing because those celebrities can simply say that “they are still human; they are not different from their fans out there”. They do not realize their status as celebrities, artists and famous faces, and that their life is surrounded by fans who are never exhausted to know more than their new products of films or songs. News or headline like “ X- the famous actor announcing his divorce “ or “ Yes, we are not living together since 3 months ago- Artist B “ give an bad indicator to not only entertainment industry but to the religion institution and academic system. In fact it reflects how bad Malaysians are in managing their married lives.
There are few factors contributing to the wrecked marriage among Malaysian celebrities. First of all it is about infidelity and unfaithfulness. Lots of divorce cases occurred because of these factors. The existence of third person can trigger this problem. Third person may be anybody - fans, or some corporate people that they are dealing with, manager, recording company staff or just new artists who want to have some publicity to spur their name. It is very ironic to see that celebrities have elaborated wedding reception to celebrate their marriage, where all the ministers and VVIP in Malaysia were invited and the coverage of their wedding would be on the magazine for a month, but after one of two years of marriage, they end up in Syariah Court. It is juxtaposition with their Hollywood-like wedding ceremony, because their attitude towards a marriage is very pathetic. Their perception about marriage is always different with the ordinary people’s concept of marriage because they are celebrities themselves. This is why infidelity and unfaithfulness happen where they feel that the status as celebrities allow them to do whatever they wish to do. The status also can be immunity for them to go overboard without thinking about the consequences that might affect their marriage in the future. Last year, we were shocked to read about the divorce between two famous artists that we always taught as loving couple. The male celebrity was caught in proximity with a new artist in his new office- resulting in the collapse of a 9 year of marriage. It shows that Malaysian celebrities have misused their license as public figures by involving themselves in affairs and scandals which soon will degrade the role of celebrities in public’s eyes. Statements such as “that is our fate” and “that is not our choice to separate” is what they would always say outside the syariee court after their procedural of divorcee is done. The problem is caused by their actions, and by saying such statements, it shows the lack of mentality among our celebrity about the marriage institution. Endless scandal bit by bit will deteriorate people’s trust and interest to support their product of the entertainment industry as a whole.
The second factor is gossip. Gossip, celebrities and media are interrelated. Media and celebrities for instance depend on each other. The magazine needs to be sold, and hot and latest entertainment news would push fans to buy the magazines to read about their favorite celebrities. On the other hand, celebrities depend on media to market their product and tell the public about their new films or albums. However, our media industry has been flooded with lots of entertainment magazines which have the same purpose - gaining money from the glittering world of show business. Lots of approach and creativity are needed to compete with other publisher. However, it becomes an unhealthy competition when they start to write about personal details and private life of celebrities. It may be a good approach because readers love to know more about the celebrities’ life compared to their new products. However, sometimes what they write are stories without any strong supporting evidence. Celebrities become the victims but they must allow this to happen in order to avoid being boycotted by the press and media. To make thing even worse, some of the gossip are more towards provocation. We can blame the entertainment press for reporting such irrelevant news which will affect the readers. We cannot deny some of the gossip might be true but the media should not use it as a selling point to sell their magazines. They must be responsible with what they write and the public must be given accurate news and coverage about the celebrity. There are lots of divorces among Malaysian’s celebrities because of gossips. “Artist A (married) is said having a dinner with Artist C? (bachelor) is one example of gossip which can bring trouble to Artist A’s marriage. News without pictures, evidences or having question remarks should not be published because it can be a slander to ruin Artist A’s career and marriage. However, the fans will not perceive it as a gossip or a slander, they will believe the gossip and the gossip will spread across the country. Having pressure in their marriage, Artist A’s marriage with his spouse will be adversely affected and result in divorce. Here, we can see the impact of media in patterning the future of people in the entertainment industry in Malaysia. How terrible it is to see the wicked tactics used by some of the press and publisher just to get the readers for their magazine and to increase the sales.
Besides that, some Malaysian celebrities are easily drowned by popularity. Life as a public figure which camera flash is always on them, sometimes make them forget their commitment especially for those who are married. Exposure and endless offer to make films or stage shows will overshadow their own priority. As it is named as entertainment industry, it will absolutely entertain these celebrities with lots of money and products to endorse, and strong fans around them who will support their films or albums. Their life will be filled with photo shooting, an invitation to A-class list of businessman’s party or joining the tour of the products they endorse. For the celebrities who are still holding status as a bachelor, it will be alright. However, it becomes a problem to married celebrities who are at the peak of their career. Thus, they must be able to prioritize between their career and family in order to secure and maintain their success in both career and happiness in marriage. However, most Malaysian celebrities fail to do that because their popularity has blinded them from choosing the right decision for their own life. For them, popularity and fame only comes once, so they must grab all opportunity that they have in front of the eyes. Endless commitment to their career will kill their marriage because of their own failure to prioritize what is important in their life. Popularity is very subjective and every celebrity will taste the sweetness of popularity and the bitter part of it. But, for some of married celebrities in Malaysian, commitment to maintain their popularity is more important than holding the serenity of married life. There are many cases of celebrity’s divorce in Malaysia because of the tendency to maintain their popularity rather than thinking about their family. They think that having married life will hinder their movement as well-known celebrities. In fact, they think that their fans will prefer them to be an individual not as a husband or wife to somebody. That is why they choose to divorce as a sacrifice for their blossoming career. Unfortunately, after the divorce, the offer in the entertainment industry decreased, and the attention is turned to the younger artists who have lots of things to offer in one package. It is very common for some artists who think that their popularity is absolute but it ends just after they got divorced. In this industry, sometimes the best decision that we think is good sometimes does not work out.
There are current trends in Malaysia to see our celebrities getting married to older people and with the foreigners. It is not a big problem unless you know how to handle this situation. What will happen if the spouse that you think will follow your religion rules (cases of marrying a foreigner) is totally against with it? Marrying a foreigner may sound cool and show the good taste of Malaysian celebrities but they have to follow the social convention that our religion has set up for them. That is the issue especially for those marrying foreigner or ever experienced marrying French, English or Italian men who are known as less-committed in the world. Many of our celebrities fail to shape their spouse to follow the rules and regulations of our religion and resulting in divorce with lame excuses such as “ He could not follow my way” and “ It is very difficult to marry foreigner”. Besides that, marrying a rich older man is commonly seen in this industry. They can simply claim that money is not the reason why they choose that wrinkle man, but because of love. The public is not foolish, for a 20 year old girl who has just started singing and held small roles in television series and engaged to a 60 years old rich businessman, it might be a good thing to laugh about especially when you talk about love. From the two examples above, we can see how shallow the thinking of our celebrities is especially when it comes to marriage. Marriage for them is just tying the knot and having somebody to sleep with. They may say that they have chosen the right person and made the right decision, but their immaturity is shown after two years of marriage when they start to claim that they are not happy with that older man and the foreigner. Finally, they choose to separate to get rid of the relationship problem they face.
Last but not least is location love. This factor also contributes to the increasing divorce rate among Malaysian celebrities. For example, Brad Pitt dumped his wife, Jennifer Aniston while filming a movie together with sexy Angelina Jolie, maybe our celebrities can learn a lesson from this. Spending 24 hours together in the filming location sometimes can spur affection between actor and actress. In fact, the role of scripted romantic scenes can sometimes continue out of the filming location. In fact, the director’s instruction to build chemistry between the casts sometimes has been misused by them to build not only the chemistry but affection and desire. Married casts who are involved in location love may experience excitement and seduction with their acting partners and this overtake their responsibility as a father or mother at home. The producer might want to use this relationship as a weapon to promote his movie which bringing more chaos to the current circumstances. As the result, it wrecks the cast’s family and ends with divorce. If the casts themselves sets their mind to help their family before going to the location, love at work will not happen. Therefore, they must know their responsibility and boundaries that they must oblige with their acting partner.
In the nutshell, divorce among Malaysian celebrities can be avoided if they know their job and responsibility well. It might be a domestic problem, but as one who holds the status as public figure they must know the social conventions and rules that they must obey. Being a celebrity does not permit them to do whatever they want because as a role model, their movements and actions will be followed by their fans. Knowing their role in the family as a father, mother, husband, wife and public figure well will prevent them marriage problem.
Monday, November 2, 2009
DIVORCES AMONG CELEBRITIES AT 2008 & 2009
Prepared by Ismawaty bt Md Sidik
· Singer, Azharina Azhar or Azharina and Datuk Sukri Mohamed.
· Singer, Farah Asyikin Zulkifli or Farah Asyikin and Dr Fariz Yahya.
· Singer, Siti Fairus Sheikh Mohamed or Siti Fairuz and Mohamad Zainuddin Kordi.
· Actress, Nor' Ashikin Karman or Norish Karman and Datuk Hashimuddin Abdul Kadir.
· Actress, Nora Mohd Danish Hanif or Nora Danish and Toh Muda Rizal Ashram Ramli.
· Singer, Norazlina Abd Rahman or Leina Hangat and Muhammad Jamal Delaloy Abdullah.
· Singer VE Group’s, Charma Adizalilullah Abdul Khalil or Cham VE and Karmila Khalid.
· Singer, Tengku Anis Soraya Tengku Sulaiman or Anis Suraya and Wan Kasmaizi Wan Kamaruddin.
· Actress, Emma Akma Yunus or Emma Akma and Mohd Kamal Jaafar Sidek.
· Actor, Nasrizal Ngasri or Bell and Nur Farhana Mohamad Fauri.
· Actor, Mohamed Nurhakim Zaidon or Norman Hakim and actress, Arbaeyah Abdul Manan or Abby Abadi.
· Actor, Mohd Aszerul Nizam Abdullah or Beego and Intan Shahira Mohd Shahrul.
· Singer, Jamaluddin Elias or Nash and Sosilawati Lawiya.
· Director and actor Aziz M Osman and Nor Radhiah Ramli.
· Singer OAG Group’s, Mohd Radhi Razali or Radhi OAG and Shazlin Sharif.
· Singer, Dayang Zaira Erema Awang Moshdad or Erema and Jamaludin Sulik or Seri Bayu.
· TV3 Host, Zakiah Anas, and ex reporter, Yusof Mohamad Taib.
· TV3 Host, Mazidul Akmal Sidek and Khairul Fazlin Kamaruddin.
· Actress, Wan Sharmila Wan Muhammad and Fazli Baharum.
· Actress, Ida Nerina and Shahrin Razali.
· Host TV, Sarimah and Amir Andrew.
· Singer, Siti Nordiana and actor, Mohd Faizal Yusop.
· Singer, Farah Asyikin Zulkifli or Farah Asyikin and Dr Fariz Yahya.
· Singer, Siti Fairus Sheikh Mohamed or Siti Fairuz and Mohamad Zainuddin Kordi.
· Actress, Nor' Ashikin Karman or Norish Karman and Datuk Hashimuddin Abdul Kadir.
· Actress, Nora Mohd Danish Hanif or Nora Danish and Toh Muda Rizal Ashram Ramli.
· Singer, Norazlina Abd Rahman or Leina Hangat and Muhammad Jamal Delaloy Abdullah.
· Singer VE Group’s, Charma Adizalilullah Abdul Khalil or Cham VE and Karmila Khalid.
· Singer, Tengku Anis Soraya Tengku Sulaiman or Anis Suraya and Wan Kasmaizi Wan Kamaruddin.
· Actress, Emma Akma Yunus or Emma Akma and Mohd Kamal Jaafar Sidek.
· Actor, Nasrizal Ngasri or Bell and Nur Farhana Mohamad Fauri.
· Actor, Mohamed Nurhakim Zaidon or Norman Hakim and actress, Arbaeyah Abdul Manan or Abby Abadi.
· Actor, Mohd Aszerul Nizam Abdullah or Beego and Intan Shahira Mohd Shahrul.
· Singer, Jamaluddin Elias or Nash and Sosilawati Lawiya.
· Director and actor Aziz M Osman and Nor Radhiah Ramli.
· Singer OAG Group’s, Mohd Radhi Razali or Radhi OAG and Shazlin Sharif.
· Singer, Dayang Zaira Erema Awang Moshdad or Erema and Jamaludin Sulik or Seri Bayu.
· TV3 Host, Zakiah Anas, and ex reporter, Yusof Mohamad Taib.
· TV3 Host, Mazidul Akmal Sidek and Khairul Fazlin Kamaruddin.
· Actress, Wan Sharmila Wan Muhammad and Fazli Baharum.
· Actress, Ida Nerina and Shahrin Razali.
· Host TV, Sarimah and Amir Andrew.
· Singer, Siti Nordiana and actor, Mohd Faizal Yusop.
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